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So Who’s Perfect?

November 14th, 2006

Mom always has to be right.  Mom is never wrong.  Even when mom is wrong, she is right!  Ever hear these words or even say them?  The same can be said of Dad’s! 

The reason we as mom’s and dad’s find it hard to admit mistakes is that most of us get our feelings of self-worth or fulfillment from our performances. 

To make matters worse, the doing or perfomance we demand of ourselves is 100 percent perfection and then we transfer these feelings and expect perfection from our children!

When self-worth is based on performance, we spend most of our time trying to prove we’re not failures and that’s why we find it hard to see and admit our mistakes, even to ourselves, let alone to our children.

Is there any way to break the cycle?  I believe there is.  First, the truth is we are all imperfect. So, admitting our mistakes to ourselves as well as our children when we blow it is healthy.   Second, we need to convey to our children that we love them unconditionally, mistakes or no mistakes. Thirdly, as parents,  we need to assure our children that they are accepted for who they are not on their performances.

(sc) contributing editor for Browneyedbabyboutique

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